During our interactions, the reasons the men shared with us for cheating ranged from boredom, to an inactive sex life and even general intimacy issues.
The first person who approached us was a 43-year-old businessman, named Shekhar Sharma. While he frequently asked us if we were “okay with having sex with an unknown person”, he refused to tell us why he was so eager to cheat on his wife.
A survey conducted across 40 countries last year, by the Pew Research Centre, USA, found that 62% of Indians had no issues indulging in extramarital affairs.
It is no surprise then, that several Indian users seem to have contributed to making a French website — which provocatively calls itself “the first extramarital dating site made by women” — a virtual hit. “You can meet married or attached men and women from all over the world,” it says, while asking the user to “be honest about your marital status.” The irony couldn’t be more palpable.
No female appeal As expected, our male profile got no takers.
But the female profile had a flurry of requests from potential partners.
“I think maybe I’m a racist,” writes Charu, 31, 14 kilometres away, active 2 minutes ago. I need 2 know if u r up 4 it.”I’m not quite sure I am, so I stall. Look, I’ve lived as an extreme racial minority for the majority of my adult life, and being a straight white man dating in non-white lands rallies from what Louis CK would describe as “a me?
But having never been based in one place for more than two years or so, a few serious relationships have had to be sacrificed. So after once again moving to a new city where I didn’t really know any women, I was pleased at the prospect of a shortcut to finding some. ”, I want to say.“Let me think about it,” I type, wondering what I really think about it.I made them take it down as soon as they showed it to me.” I fill into my next blue text bubble, tapping again on her photos, confirming not only that you can’t detect a maybe racist by appearance, but that her appearance is rather pleasing. I hadn’t taken kindly to my friends in Bengaluru creating a profile that one time, just to see how many hits “the gora” would get. It’s not Charu’s immediate post-match dive into depravity that’s made me uncomfortable — this sort of dirty bird pops up every so often on social media — it’s the bluntness of her sexual Occidentalism.